Social Media - Plugged in or tuned out?
There’s an irony in the ways we use social media. We’re a connected generation, but to what? Could a tool designed to bring us closer together actually be driving a line between our relationships? Have you ever stopped for a second to process how connected, or more appropriately, dependent we really are upon this feeling of being connected? How long has it been since your last tweet or text? How long has it been since you’ve checked Facebook only to see that nothing has really changed since the time before? What about blogs? Even archaic inventions like email are a daily facet of our existence.
But my question is are we really more connected? Sure, we’re more connected to what’s happening in our lives - what you had for dinner, who you’re following, what sports team you’re angry with this week, etc. It’s almost scary to think of how social media for some, has begun to replace real life.
I work in the Oak Park Mall, and I watched two young girls the other day walking side by side, heads down, plugged in and texting. They weren’t speaking or interacting with each other. Just co-existing. This was just a small glimpse into their lives, and rightly so could have been uncommon for them. But it begs the question, have we traded social media for real relationships? Or to tone it down a bit, is social media diluting those relationships? I think so.
Have a look at the comments sections on any popular website (try YouTube) and you will notice a complete disregard for grammar and spelling. That could be because 10 year olds are interacting. Or maybe it’s because I’m a writer and notice those things. Or maybe, just maybe our connectedness has allowed us to ignore things like - the English language. The number 4 should never replace the word “for”. And “U” should never replace “you”. For crying out loud, there IS a difference between you’re and your.
I don’t have to call you on your birthday anymore either, because I’ll just post it on your wall (which reminded me in the first place) along with the other 300 people you don’t speak with anymore. I don’t have to send a hand-written Thank You to business professionals because I can just send an email, or go for creeper points and message you on Facebook. A phone call and a hand-written Thank You are exponentially more meaningful than something transmitted over a social network. And since I believe social media constantly tempts us to manage our image, we become less authentic with each other and learn to simply co-exist. Instead of walking through life together and going beyond the surface, we’re just Facebook friends. Instead of investing the time necessary to forge a lasting friendship, we just follow each other and connect with an occasional @mention.
Don’t misunderstand me - social media is a revolutionary tool and offers entertainment and social interaction in a very convenient package. I’m just concerned for our social vitality. And the generations to come? How connected will they be? We were designed to live in community, and social media can maliciously feed the introvert in all of us. So go connect with someone, face to face.